Molly’s Story – Family Life

After her early career in the forces, Molly moved to Coventry to start her family life with Bill

MOLLY’S LIFE AFTER THE SERVICES

Whilst in the army Molly, a PT instructor, was asked to take a group of girls to a dance. She didn’t know any of the girls nor anyone at the dance. So when they arrived she asked if there were any other PT instructors there.   She was directed to a group of men standing in the corner and she waited until there was a Lady’s Excuse Me dance and then asked one of the instructors to dance. Initially he refused saying he had “two left feet”. But when his colleagues offered to dance with Molly, he quickly changed his mind. When they got on the dance floor, a spotlight followed them all around the floor and Molly only found out afterwards that it was his 21st birthday. That’s how she first met her husband – Bill.

In 1956, Molly married Bill Shortland. The wedding was held at Thomas Cooper Baptist Church in Lincoln.   The Church was subsequently demolished when an unexploded war time bomb was found beneath it. The wedding cost £60, which included the cost of a honeymoon in a caravan at Yarmouth / Lowestoft. While in the caravan, Molly and Bill both bent down at the same time and Molly ended up with a black eye which she had to explain to her mother when she got home.

After they were married, they moved to Coventry where Bill lived. Molly got a job as a dictaphone typist at Armstrong Siddeley and later she moved to BRS but had to leave after six months to have her first child. They now have three children – Janet, Peter and Kenneth and one grandchild, Charlotte.

To start with, they rented a house opposite the Butts Technical College in Coventry. It was 14 shillings a week. They later saved up a £100 deposit to buy a house at 3 John Gray Road in Cheylesmore. It cost around £1300. At the time, Bill was very ill and Molly was given special permission to buy the house because at that time, women were not able to buy houses. In order to pay the mortgage, they took in three lodgers to pay their way.

Holidays were expensive but with the Co-op you could get a chalet at Rhyl for £10 a week. You had to be a member and you had to queue up to book as the holidays were very popular. They travelled from Coventry on a motorbike and sidecar – Bill and Molly on the bike and two children in the sidecar. On holiday they had games like sack races and wheelbarrow races and they also played bingo and went dancing during the week away.

When the children were more grown up, Molly went back to work as a Lollypop Lady. She worked at Manor Park School. One day, while working on Davenport Road, Molly was standing in the middle of the road with her lollypop stick when she saw a wheel rolling down the road with a man chasing behind it. She managed to stop it by swiping it with her lollypop stick.

On the 12th June 2009, Molly was invited to tea in the Coventry Lord Mayor’s Parlour and the Lord Mayor, Jack Harrison, presented Veteran Badges to all the guests who had spent time in the services.

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Bill and Molly are now approaching the

60th wedding anniversary in 2016.

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Molly’s Story – Life in the Army

Now Molly heads for a very active life in the Army!

MOLLY’S LIFE IN THE ARMY

  • After leaving the air force she joined the army and did basic training at Aldershot. She then did another course of training to become a PT Instructor. She was an acting sergeant in the WAAF, which later became the WRAC’s.
  • Following her initial training as a Physical Training Instructor, Molly was stationed at Queen Victoria Hospital in Nettley in Southampton.  It was a rehabilitation hospital.  These are some of things she remembered about her experience: They were given a skeleton to study anatomy, but she couldn’t remember the Latin words for all the bones; Each night, the other soldiers put the skeleton on Molly’s chair with a red heart attached to it. Molly also attended a post-mortem for the first time while she was there; the Coroner told all the students that if they couldn’t cope they should go out and when he had finished, Molly was the only one left standing.

While she was there she went to sea for the first time.

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The Netball Team

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The Cricket Team

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The Table Tennis Team with Molly, as the Coach, standing in the middle

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Molly with her Corporal stripes and the crossed swords insignia of the Physical Training Instructors

  • Molly had always been a good swimmer. She was taught by her Mum and Dad, who were themselves good at swimming. They promised her, if she learned to swim and tell the time, they would buy her a new swimming costume and that’s what got her started. Whilst serving as a WRAC, she went swimming in the North Sea and swam one mile every day. She swam for Western Command and won a cup for breaststroke and also for the relay race and the medley race.  Her mother kept them in the front room of her house.

 

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Molly posing on a boat on a beach somewhere in the Baltic.  Now you can see why she was called “Legs 11”!

 

  • She went on a course in Holland and had to sleep on pallias’s which were bags of straw.  The girls were all expected to “rough it and not to complain”.  But when she found the men had beds she kicked up a fuss.
  • In 1955 she was in the Royal Tournament, dancing with hoops in a routine called “Step in Music”.

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Molly is in the second row from the front, third along from the right

  • Whilst at the Royal Tournament, she was part of the Guard of Honour for the Queen. When they marched out of the arena, they had to remain in full formation backstage until they were dismissed and at that point, all the waiting soldiers had water pistols and soaked them all with water. The video is of the tournament a year later  http://youtu.be/1TT-H2_PXrs.
  • On another occasion she was an invited guest at the Duke of Connaught’s home which was used as an army training centre in Virginia Water.  She and her colleagues were very well looked after when they stayed there and everyone had their own butler to look after them.

 

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  • Later she moved to Scotland and was the only PT Instructor in Scotland when she moved to Edinburgh Castle. She remembers having to exercise all the army cooks because they had bad feet from standing up all day. They also had some prisoners to train.

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This is a group photograph at the Territorial Army Training Centre at Rhyl, North Wales.  Molly is on the back row in the dark training suit and she was responsible for physical training of around 100 girls

 

She left the army in 1956 and the final episode tomorrow is all about her family life!

 

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Molly’s Story – Life in the RAF

This is the second chapter of Molly’s life story.

 MOLLY’S LIFE IN THE RAF

  • At 16 and a half, she joined the RAF – she should have been 17 and a half but her mother helped her fiddle the forms to get in a year early.

 

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This is June with Molly on her right

  • She joined Flight Command Squadron 11 and she was called “Legs 11”, perhaps because she always liked to be around the boys.

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This is Molly enjoying a “pint” with some friends”

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This is Molly playing Monopoly with some Norwegian boys

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Good times in the RAF with lots of different challenges and many new friends

 

  • In the early 1950’s she was stationed in Germany.  It was the time of the Berlin Airlift when there was significant tension between the Soviet Union and the rest of the Western World.   The RAF played a major role in providing supplies to Berlin and Molly was stationed in Germany at the time.
  • Travelling back home to Lincoln took two days on the train from Germany. Then on to a ferry from the Hook of Holland to Harwich. Then another train from London to Lincoln.
  • There were lots of flights from RAF Scampton to Germany. On one occasion to get back to Germany, she charmed her way on to a “A World War 2 Lincoln Cargo Plane” which was a modified Lancaster Bomber, that gave her two extra days leave at home.

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  • The plane flew from RAF Scampton to Wunstorf Military Airport. Molly had to fly in the cargo hold wearing an oxygen mask and an all in one suit, because there was no heating. There were also no toilets on the plane and on one occasion, when she got to Wunstorf and got off the plane, she was desperate to go to the toilet. She ran into the toilet in the control tower and caused a major ruckus because they thought she might be carrying contraband.
  • As a present from one of the air crew, she was given some Chanel No 5 perfume, which she didn’t open until she returned home. She had to get her father to help her open the bottle as it had a seal on it. In doing so, he broke the bottle and spilt the perfume all over himself.
  • While in the RAF in 1950/51, Molly went skiing in Winterberg, Germany.  She stayed in a hotel which cost 6 pence a day.  She was taught by a Swedish army ski instructor to ski without sticks.

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  • Other memories of her RAF days:

 

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One of the many cleaning jobs while in the RAF.  Molly is on the back row far left

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Party girls – Molly is sitting on the floor in the middle

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Molly sitting on a rock in the summer in Germany where they do wild boar hunting

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Larking about

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Molly cutting a cake with a friend.  ? 18th Birthday

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Molly is in the back row, second from the right with an RAF Hockey Team.  In those days only public schools played hockey.  Later when she moved to Coventry to work for the NHS, Molly went on to play until she was 40 on the pitches on Humber Road

  • She finished life in the RAF when she was posted back to Plymouth. After three months she couldn’t settle in civvy street and decided to join the army.

Molly makes a career change in her next role – see tomorrow’s chapter!

 

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Molly’s Story – Childhood

Molly regularly attends the Cheylesmore Good Neighbours Group  in Coventry and has agreed to tell us some of her life story as a means of developing a model for a “Book of Life”.

The photographs and stories below are her recollections of life over 84 years. 

The full story will be published on GrumbleSmiles over the Christmas period. 

It makes wonderful reading and any errors in recording it are entirely mine.

MOLLY’S CHILDHOOD

  • Molly was born in Manchester on the 22nd December 1931, the daughter of a bricklayer.
  • She was adopted and moved to her new family in Lincoln. They lived at 12 Walcot Close, Hartsholme Estate, Lincoln where she was brought up.

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  • As a girl, she was a Brownie and then a Girl Guide – her auntie was a guide leader.
  • She went on to become a Sea Ranger when she was 14 or 15 years old in Lincoln.  They learned all about knots and flags and they went on boats on the river in Lincoln.  They also used to go to Lincoln Cathedral on Remembrance Day and she said “they prayed they could do the collection so that they could get near to the scouts”.

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This is Molly on the left with her friend Beryl in their Sea Ranger uniforms. 

Molly says “she was always in uniform”

Molly goes from one uniform to another in tomorrow’s episode!

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“Elderly Bad News”

In the run up to Christmas, you hope for some news stories that spread happiness and goodwill.  So I turned to the BBC News Website for some inspiration.  Obviously you first have to pretend not to see all the stories about the never ending conflict in the Middle East and the human tragedy and terrorism that flows from it.   Even after two thousand years, very near to the birthplace of Christ, there are few happy Christmas stories these days.

I narrowed my search closer to home and looked for stories about elderly people in the UK.  There were 17 featured headlines in December:-

  • The first group of stories were all about the lack of resources and pressure on the NHS created by the “burden” of elderly people, either in need of hospital care or unable to return home after treatment.
    • “NHS apology over dementia care”
    • “Patients moved as ward is closed”
    • “More beds needed to ease pressure on hospitals”
  • The second group of stories are all about elderly abuse and poor standards of care.
    • Care Home boss stole from elderly”
    • “Gang guilty of pensioner phone scam”
    • “Care Home boss sorry over death”
    • “Elderly and disabled care at risk”
    • “Pair fined after care home death”
  • All but one of the remaining stories were about the reduction of services affecting older people, such as the closing of local bank branches and the high levels of loneliness and isolation amongst elderly people.

None of these stories make you feel better about life as you age.  Indeed the weight of pessimistic stories like this just adds to the burden of getting older.  Yet, is this a true picture of reality for most older people?

The final headline is the one bit of good news:-

“Share of life in good health ‘rising'”

This is a report on a research study recently published in The Lancet.  The research carried out at Newcastle University was a comparison of two previous studies of older people made in 1991 and then 20 years later in 2011.  The researchers found that at the end of the study period, men experienced four more years of good health and for women it was three years, compared to the group in 1991.  Significantly the later group rated their own health better.  The researchers also found that cognitive impairment was reduced and there was also a lower level of serious disability among the latter group.

So beneath all these stories there is an underlying improvement in the health and lifestyle of older people.  This won’t reduce the pressure on the NHS because of the growing number of older people, but it does mean that there is an active and relatively fit group of elderly people who could be used to support many of the disadvantaged people in society.  If, as a society, we work together to better support the more vulnerable older people, we can surely speak up for them and protect them from abuse and exploitation.

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“Loneliness Kills”

Less than six months ago I was writing about the many thousands of older people who live a lonely later life.

Now from the University of Chicago, a research study shows clear scientific evidence of the link between social isolation and ill-health.  Social isolation is known to increase the risk of premature death by as much as a third.    Comparable to the impact of smoking and obesity.  Yet it attracts far less attention and even less action.

The Chicago researchers found a physical link between loneliness and increased “fight or flight” responses in the nervous system.   This in turn has the potential to lower their immune system and make lonely people more susceptible to diseases.

More than half of the over 75’s the UK live alone and an estimated 5 million pensioners have only a TV on for company.    Time for some Government action on the same scale as the No Smoking or healthy eating campaigns.

Or at least let old people smoke and eat themselves to a happy death.

(See the earlier posts by clicking on “Same Old, Same Old” in the TAG CLOUD).

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“Boom Turns to Bust”

Just two weeks ago I was blogging about the precarious financial position of the residential care sector.  (See “Poker Played With Peoples’ Lives” by clicking on “Residential Care” in the topics list).

It is a story which grew out of the rapid expansion of the residential care sector in the 1980’s and 1990’s.  It was a private sector response to the rapidly ageing society and the then Government’s reluctance to fund new Local Authority provided “Old Peoples’ Homes”.  A host of new companies sprang up to build new homes.  A commercial “cash cow”, with new names – Take Care, Ashbourne Homes, Beaumont Health Care, Craigmore and several others.

Sadly, this new edifice was built on sand.  Unskilled staff, low wages and high levels of capital borrowing.  It has survived this long thanks to a series of mergers and takeovers, which exacerbated their level of indebtedness.

The industry is reaching a tipping point, the “cash cow” has become a “dog” in commercial terms – profit margins have fallen to a point where the poker playing financiers no longer want to be in this game.

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Four Seasons Health Care – the subject of my blog two weeks ago – just reported a third quarter loss of £25.4 million on a turnover of £172 million.  The introduction of the new living wage will add another £10 million to their cost in April.  90% of Four Seasons residents are state funded, so any closure of their homes will increase pressure on NHS beds and demands on Social Services.

Ironically, public and private sector residential care are both built on mountains of debt.  Meanwhile, elderly people are just cards being played in a high stakes poker game that no-one can win.

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“Just another drink”

Ever since I’ve been writing this blog, I’ve been following all type of announcements on research into aspects of ageing.  A great many of them fall into the realms of health issues.  As every year passes, you are tempted to clutch the straw of any piece of research advice that offers the potential to extend longevity.  Research and advice on exercise is easy to find but harder to do.  It all requires you to make more effort than usually comes naturally to you.

Similarly there’s a vast amount of information and suggestion on the right type of diet to adopt.  You will see in my tag cloud many references to the healthy virtues of everything from breakfast cereals to every variety of vegetable and numerous unheard of berries and nuts.  I do my best to eat as much of this as possible but I must admit to frequent relapses as I go back to an appetite for good food which has been acquired over a lifetime.

That’s why it’s easier to follow advice on what to drink because other than sourcing the ingredients, it’s not too difficult to achieve.  The problem with drinks is that there is so much advice.  So over the years I’ve started to drink more and more fruit juices – beetroot, apple, orange etc, all recommended by one researcher or another.

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(See Fruitful Research 3 which you can find by clicking on the ARCHIVE for January 2011)

Then of course there’s my favourite green tea which frequently features in my blogs ever since I visited Japan.

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(See “Green Tea is good for you” by clicking on the ARCHIVE for October 2015)

My favourite recommendation to follow is the copious quantities of red wine recommended to cure just about everything.

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(See “Red Wine is f-f-fine” by clicking on the ARCHIVE for October 2015)

Finally I must not forget the end of the day cup of cocoa aimed at staving off Alzheimer’s.  (See “Night Night, Sleep Tight” by clicking on the ARCHIVE for August 2014).

As if this wasn’t enough, researchers at Harvard Medical School, recently managed to get a leading article in The Times extoling the virtues of coffee.  The research suggests it can lower the risk of death from cardiovascular disease and neurological diseases.  “The cholorogenic acid and lignans have antioxidant effects and might be responsible for the inverse association of coffee and mortality.”  The fact that it’s in The Times is research conducted by an eminent American University, is full of long incomprehensible medical words and has been carried out by a researcher called Ming Ding, absolutely and totally confirms that it must be right and probably preserves life forever 🙂

So it now appears that on top of all my other life prolonging drinks, I will have to consume three cups of coffee a day.   At least I’ll have something more interesting to talk about to the Starbucks Baristas after I’ve told them whether I want sprinkles on my cappuccino.

 

 

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“Cloud Surfing – Trekking”

Still cloud surfing on the lookout for interesting examples of older people making the most of later life.    (See earlier blogs found in this thread by clicking on CLOUD SURFING in the TAG CLOUD).

The internet is difficult to navigate, especially when you don’t have a compass and the stars in the sky are obscured by the clouds.    It also doesn’t help when you don’t know where you are going or what exactly you are looking for.

I always liken it to trying to find someone in a telephone directory, if it is not arranged in alphabetical order.    You know they are in there but you just can’t find them :-(.

Using search terms like – older people, pensioners or seniors (if you’re American), just does not work for people who don’t think of themselves as defined by their age.  So you end up trying to catch hold of a cloud !

There is one other variable in this quest and that is my lack of skill and patience with the computer.    I inadvertently delete things and then can’t always find my way back to where I was.    Alternatively I save things and can’t remember where I have saved them.    Finally, I get side-tracked into other interesting peoples’ blogrolls, YouTube videos, photo galleries, Google earth…………….and so the search meanders all over the cloudscape !

But the key is to enjoy the journey, in the knowledge that you will eventually find a piece of hidden treasure, somewhere up there, lost in the clouds.

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Today, I found Meg Noble Peterson.  An American lady who I think lives in the North West of the USA.    Her blog is full of fascinating stories about trekking around the world sometimes with her daughter.    Great stories, great photos – Nepal, India, Africa and even the wilds of England :-).    All this with a new hip and an intrepid explorer’s spirit.

It certainly puts my couch potato travels with computers and cloud surfing into perspective.

You can find Meg’s blog by clicking on megnoblepeterson.com.  It’s a great blog which is well worth a visit, especially if like me you’re less adventurous in your older age.  Reading Meg’s blog can take you travelling around the world.  It’s a real rebuke to the stereo type of older people slowing down in later life.

Thanks Meg, you are an inspiration to us all.

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“Poker played with peoples lives !”

Four years ago, in 2011, my blog followed the demise of Southern Cross which was then the largest care home operator in the UK.   (You can read the full story by clicking on “Southern Cross” in the TAG CLOUD).

It was optimistically conceived in an ever-growing population of frail older people who were funded by the State.   Eventually this rapidly assembled and dangerously financially leveraged corporate empire collapsed in on itself.

I likened the whole process to a poker game, where money was the only driver and the residents were just cards to play in the high stakes game.     When Southern Cross went bust, the spoils were divided up between the remaining players and the second largest care home operator — Four Seasons Health Care — inherited the largest chunk of homes to pay off Southern Cross debts.

Sadly, the market fundamentals had not changed and Four Seasons were just as highly indebted.      I forecast that it was likely to happen all over again and sure enough it has.   Four Seasons has £500m of debt and annual interest bills of £50m.    Occupancy levels are falling and Social Services’ fees are being squeezed, so the outlook doesn’t look good.    The new minimum wage may just be the tipping point for yet another collapse.

The poker game is still being played out to see if Four Seasons becomes the next Southern Cross.    That’s 22,500 old people who have an uncertain future in 470 care homes.

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It is high time Government accepted that social care of the elderly is too important to be left to a card game of chance.    We need a 21st century positive outlook to later life which offers all older people a secure and caring future.    This can only come about if politicians are honest with older people about the limited state funding that is available to pay for care.

In turn that means that most older people will have to cash in the equity in their own homes if they need to pay for care.    The Government’s key future role should be to encourage greater provision of retirement housing and facilitate less expensive and more trustworthy models of equity release.

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